relationship, you have to stop treating your romantic life like a "budget" operation
Psychologists call this "meta-communication"—talking about how you talk. In premium relationships, the couple becomes the narrator of their own struggles. They step outside the fight to observe the fight. This meta-perspective is the sign of a high-value romantic storyline.
Sociological Perspectives on Romance, Love and Modern Relationships . 2. Media Influence on Romantic "Storylines"